Being The Cool Dad
Most men that are about to become fathers see themselves as possibly being the 'cool' dad. You know what I'm saying? I've only been a dad for about five months now so I think I'm still in the stage of trying to figure out if I should permanently give up on ever playing another video game. I mean I barely have the time to do a blog post let alone spend hours on end playing a game. I want to stay relevant in my old world (pre-baby) but I'm feeling myself get drawn into dad world.
Is there a happy medium? I believe so. It takes a special skill called time management. I still struggle with it but I think I'm starting to get it down. I'm learning that I've wasted a lot of time during the day before my daughter was born. My typical day consisted of waking up at 5am. I would make a small breakfast, watch the news and sip on coffee until about 5:45am. Then I'd get ready for work. I'd get off work at 3:30pm and get home and mindlessly surf the Internet until dinner. After dinner I mindlessly surfed more Internet until it was time to go to bed. That was the gist of my existence. Sometimes on weekends I'd do some yard work but otherwise I didn't do anything.
I'm trying to get more into a productive routine and make more out of my time. I can't afford to allow my procrastination and laziness get in the way of being a cool dad. I want to be someone that my daughter looks up to and be an example to her. That is what being a cool dad is about. It's not about keeping up with the latest trends, or being more of a friend than a dad. So what am I doing to become that cool dad?
Well, It's simple really. I'm putting the phone down for longer periods of time and reading to my daughter instead. I try to help around the house when I can ( Still a struggle). I look for free learning opportunities for myself. For example, just the other day I signed up for a free Web Course. It's nothing that pertains to my current job but It's something that could help me in the future. I'm trying to get better at multitasking (still not as awesome at it as my wife....I don't know how she can cook, clean, watch the baby, keep the dog in check, manage the finances, and listen to my stories with only two hands.)
The bottom line is this. Being a cool dad doesn't mean you give up on bettering yourself. It doesn't mean you have to give up the old you. It means merging the two and being the best example to your children as you can be.