My life has changed forever. On May 28th 2015 at 7:36am, my Daughter Khaleesi (Khali for short) came into this world. The past week I have been trying to write a few posts but I just couldn't find the time to sit down and actually write coherent sentences. It's funny how instantly busy you become once you have a child invade your life. Today has actually been the least eventful one so far.
So, now what? I'm a dad. I'm responsible for the well being and proper up bringing of a beautiful little girl in a world with so many problems. I have so many questions and at the same time I don't have any....does that make any sense? I can't put my finger on it as to why I feel like that. It seemed like every time a nurse or doctor asked if we had any questions I always said no. Is it because I'm afraid to look stupid or that I don't know what I'm doing? Probably.
I'm constantly thinking of what I'm doing and if it's the right thing for my daughter. One of our nurses said it best. She said 'You have never been a parent before, and she has never had parents, so don't worry if you make a mistake because she won't know the difference.' It's a true statement. I know I wont make the 100% correct decisions ALL the time, and I'm sure my choices may not be what family members would agree with 100% of the time, but that's ok. They had their chance to raise children and I'm sure their decisions didn't always turn out the best so now it's our time.
This blog is mainly for tips and stories about being a military dad and or new dad. For my first tip as a NEW dad I would say it is ' Wake up with your wife during feedings if you can. I am lucky enough to have the next 6 weeks off from work so it's a little easier for me to do so. Nothing says ' Team work' like waking up with her. You may not be able to feed the baby if your wife is breast feeding but trust me, getting up at 3am to feed the baby is exhausting and the last thing you want happening is for your wife to fall asleep while feeding. It's dangerous because she could drop the baby or accidently smother the baby by pressing her chest up against the baby's face and not allowing air to get to the baby. Plus, it's nice to have an extra pair of hands to help change the baby afterwards or grab things she may need. I play as the errand boy/ diaper changer after my wife feeds. It give her time to clean up after the feeding while I'm changing diapers and putting clothes on my daughter.
My second tip is to hold your baby as much as you possibly can. They will only be this small for a short time and soon, they will think they are too old to sit on Dads lap. Plus, it will give mom a much needed break. Like right now, I have my daughter chilling out in a rocker and my wife is taking a much needed nap.