Stuff I learned: Wisdom from my Father
Welcome back to another edition of "Stuff I learned". Growing up I was fortunate enough to have both parents around to raise me and my siblings. These days it is almost common for children to grow up in single parent homes most are loved and raised by their father or mother with the help of family and grow up happy. Others are not quite as lucky but that is not what this post is about. This post is about a few things that my father passed down to me and what i have learned from him.
- Its Ok To Cry
- I think this is one of the most important lessons that my dad taught me. I had never seen him cry before until his brother passed away. I had always thought that men don't cry because they have to be strong for the family. He was physically strong and was in the military so I saw him as being a GI Joe but my dad as well and that nothing could hurt him. In many ways by seeing him cry that day it let me know that it was ok to cry when the occasion called for it. Its healthy to let your emotions go especially when grieving the loss of a family member. Men must always be strong but sometimes its ok to let our guard down it only shows that we are only human.
- Work Hard
- My dad always had a job even if it was working in a fish factory. I remember him coming home smelling like fish guts and he just looked so tired every night. Even when he was sick he would push his way out of bed and go into work. He always had to make sure he provided for us and that we had food on the table and clothes on our back. We may not have always had the very best but we had what we needed. I remind myself of my dad a lot in that way. I rarely would take sick leave and tried every year to do better than the last even if I had to move to a new location. I set in my mind to be like dad and work hard so that I could give my family everything that they needed and even wanted to the best of my ability.
- Respect, Honor, Strength
- Being a military brat my father instilled in his children what is meant to be respectful , have strength and honor. We learned that respect may not always be returned to us but to still show respect. I learned that you must earn respect by your actions and words. Honor was another trait that he passed down. He always told us that what we did reflected on him as well and that we should always strive to bring honor to the Echevarria name. This way anytime someone heard our name they would automatically think of a respectable family. Don't get me wrong there were times when I did not bring the family honor but we all make mistakes as kids. Now I strive to build up our name with honor. Strength refers to mental,spiritual, and physical strength. We grew up in a house of faith and he always pressed how important having God in our lives would be and that alone we were not strong but with God nothing could stand before us and prosper.
|Dad and I at my Basic training Grad|
|Dad and I for my bday he was my personal GI JOE|
I learned how to be a good man because of my father. He never lied to us, never complained, never wavered in his duty of being a father to us and mentor. To this day I still call him and ask him for his advice. I will never forget what he did for us and what he gave up for us to be happy. I hope that if you read this dad that you will be honored and I hope you know how much we appreciate you and love you.